WHY I HATE MARRIAGE

Marriage a beautiful thing or worst lets decide it now ,some may think its beautiful and for some it may be hell but for one bound in the net of marriage its not easy to get free as there is a saying

love marriage is suicide and arrange marriage is murder it means love marriage is done by you and arrange marriage is arranged by elders or parents so in both the cases its death

Reasons for hating marriage

SEX AND RAPE :

1.  sex is number one that i hate in marriage , the husband thinks its his right to have it as she is his wife now and he wants that right on first night in arrange marriage or love the same applies to validate the marriage to take this important right from the wife seduce her or do what ever  he desires or convince her we are married and its okay to do it and the important thing that happens in marriage is force rape which is not even considered a rape by law

MOTHER IN LAW IN CHARGE :

2.your life is not your its completely changed the way you eat , drink , sit ,stand, walk ,go outside you have to take permission not from the husband but from the mother in law as she is in charge the husband will have no problem if his mother agrees , you have cook for his whole family and take care of them like its your responsibility and you have nothing good to do , your mother in law as a word in everything in every issue of your life from bed to how many babies will you have and when you make her a grand mother or else she will remarry her son simple

RESPONSIBILITIES AND DUTIES :

3. marriage comes with lots of responsibilities when your single you do not have to answer to anyone or take care of other mess your quite free but with marriage you have lots of pressure from society,from his family ,from your family from your husband as well , your life revolves around your husband and wake up when he wakes up ,prepare breakfast ,lunch etc take care of things in his absence and many more its like a 24 hour job .

BABIES :

4. I love babies they are so unique so strange and so different its not that i am against them if your gifted by one so yeah i do not think its right to kill the baby but in marriage there is something different when you get married the society ask questions like

“when will the good news come”

meaning when you will get pregnant  ,

and women are so curious about it that they keep asking if you give birth and take break they will criticize like taking break for so long is not good you should not family plan and if you say i am not family planning then they will say that she has some problem let there imagination get wild but there are can be reasons its something private between husband and wife so people should let it be some husband may not want more so do the wife say that to women taking the interview from her  and especially the elders are so mean sometimes like once some elders were talking about my far cousin saying  that ,

“its been three years since they married and she do not have a child yet ” my granny said and the other elder ladies also started talking about it , i just did not liked the way they were talking so when i said “why are you talking like that about her is not it her personal issue ” so the ladies said ” its elders matter we women talk about these things ” but i tried to explain to them that we do not have a say in it and also it will hurt the other feelings so they said “people want to know after marriage ” if the good new comes would not they know but they like to say she do not have so i said “the baby will come there home whats in for them to talk like that ” so at last the conversation got carries away and they got upset and went they thought they were right and i misbehaved while i think i did not we have to speak about the issues in society we have to speak for other women my cousin and parents were upset at me saying why you take her side as she is far away family member and they did not say anything bad about you but the thing was if they talked bad about me i would not care but talking bad about a women is wrong tomorrow we can be in the same position so we should stand up for other

other than this i think babies are a big responsibility when they comes in a women life there life is changed completely her choices , her decisions are changed they all revolve around her child they forget themselves what they like what are there hobbies like writing,reading watching serial going shopping and people also say she has a child now so she should not stay out long etc

THE HUSBAND IS THE KING :

By this i mean that all decisions are taken by him he think he has a right on everything as he  has the title husband ,he will give no privacy to wife he will look in her stuff , look at her with eyes showing doubt is she cheating ? lets look in her stuff , is she hiding something ? questions like these and the wife has to do all the compromises as well .

DIVORCE :

Divorce happens in high rate these days , i am afraid of it other will be too , you marry someone ,give yourself physically and emotionally but when it breaks apart how much trauma it must be if a relation break like boyfriend and girlfriend it will hurt but if a marriage breaks it kills you inside , the kids fall apart as well and your trust is gone from marriage as well and you have to see the cruel words from other and

in cultures where divorce is a taboo there if you take divorce the society kills you and if you stay with the abusive husband he kills you inside  , so in both cases your at loss

SOCIAL SECURITY :

Until what i heard for the importance of marriage is a man protects a women and if you marry a man who  is a social security who protects you from  the eyes of other men and your safe as social security is needed for every women and that is why it is important  but what about the other things that comes with marriage the compromises ,the scarifies , the sharing and living and the torture done by in laws and leaving your choices behind wearing what your husband wants you to wear and doing as he please where is you pleasure where are you ? is your life not yours now ? do it belongs to someone else and will be rules by his finger ? is it only a social security ?

 

MARRIAGE IN FAIRY TALES ENDS WITH HAPPILY EVER AFTER BUT MARRIAGE IN REAL LIFE ENDS ………. decide yourself

WOMEN ARE LIKE FLOWERS

WOMEN ARE LIKE FLOWERS , YOU SHOULD TAKE CARE OF THEM

IF YOU TRY TO APPLY FORCE ON THEM , THERE SMELL WILL BE LOST

AND  THERE PETALS WILL FALL OFF 

THEY ARE FOR LOVING NOT DESTROYING

YOU SHOULD LOVE THEM AS THEY ARE NOT TO BE  DOMINATED BY YOU

AND RESPECT THERE SELF ESTEEM AS THEY ARE HUMANS LIKE YOU ARE

THEY HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO LIVE THERE LIFE AS DO YOU

 

 

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7 Comments Add yours

  1. Michael says:

    Not sure this description of marriage is accurate. Perhaps these could be reasons for why you hate a “bad” marriage. Interesting exploration though. 😊

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    1. the thing is bad marriage is everywhere have not seen a marriage without these things atleast one of the reasons will be present

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    2. WOMEN ARE LIKE FLOWERS , YOU SHOULD TAKE CARE OF THEM

      IF YOU TRY TO APPLY FORCE ON THEM , THERE SMELL WILL BE LOST

      AND THERE PETALS WILL FALL OFF

      THEY ARE FOR LOVING NOT DESTROYING

      YOU SHOULD LOVE THEM AS THEY ARE NOT TO BE DOMINATED

      AND RESPECT THERE SELF ESTEEM AS THEY ARE HUMANS LIKE YOU ARE

      THEY HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO LIVE THERE LIFE AS DO YOU

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      1. Michael says:

        I totally agree. I was just saying that marriage doesn’t mean a woman loses this…only a bad marriage. I have seen many good marriages…keep the faith 💖

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      2. hmm faith is something that is earned i think so anyway thanks for your feedback

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    1. thank you for being so kind

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